Wednesday, December 30, 2009
The statistics about New Year's resolutions are dismal. Less than 3%, if that, of people who make them, keep them.
One reason I see that many do not stick to their proposed plans, is that they aim too high. If what you think you want is so vastly different than your current habits, the odds are slim you will be able to make such a big change and stick to it. Familiarity will most likely win out, and slowly, (or quickly) you revert back to what feels comfortable. That is until you get comfortable with the new way of doing things.
This comfort thing takes commitment. Change requires commitment and awareness. When you notice the discomfort of the new is creating discord, you can let the discord go. If you are unaware, you might just fight, or justify yourself right back to where you started. Think about some of the major changes people go through, like a marriage or moving to a new city. There are usually moments of wanting to go back to the known old way of living but since the commitment has been made and there is no turning back, most people will adjust and dive into their new situation and adapt. Only when it is a desire to eat in a new way, exercise, or start a new business idea, there is often a dabbling instead of a diving. That reserving the right to quit or draw back is what kills many a good intention.
I love the title of Wayne Dyer's "Excuses Begone" book. If we take out our excuses and just take actions, we can lead a different life. Joe Vitale recommends in his new "Attracting Wealth" program to watch "Yes Man" (not sure why it is not available on itunes...) because so many people say maybe or not yet instead of Yes to their lives. Yes to what they want. Yes to living happier, wealthier, healthier, etc.
Where would you like to be in a year? 6 months? 3 months? 3 weeks? One of the most successful people I know simply writes her year out of what she wants, keeps her eye on those things, takes actions and consistently creates her life to be magically wonderful! Let's all have an incredibly great 2010!